Insight By Jael

It is crazy to think about how grief can be inherited, just like trauma. This is definitely an interesting topic that I've been thinking about, and I have done a lot of reading around it.  I know we've all heard the phrase It ends with us . Most of us even read the book It Ends with us by Colleen Hoover (very amazing book, would recommend). We have also heard about generational trauma, which many therapists and counselors talk about here and all over the world. Back in school, one of our core units in my first semester talked about the different factors that influence us, our personalities, and character. The most common obvious answer was always nature and nurture: genetic inheritance (nature) versus environmental factors(nurture). The two play a big part in who we are today and who we become. So, generational and inherited grief? This type of grief, just like generational trauma, is not a grief that we experience firsthand. It is unprocessed grief that our parents, their pare...

  PC:COUNTRY CLUB CHRISTIAN CHURCH   I am not a catholic, but Ash Wednesday interests me a lot. Arsh Wednesday, to my understanding, is a reminder of human impermanence. The guiding verse is  "Genesis 3:19 for you are dust and dust you shall return." This blog post is inspired by a book I am currently reading titled  Bitter-Sweet by Susan Cain .  It's an amazing book that talks about how sorrow and longing make us whole. In the book, Susan Cain dedicates an entire chapter to mortality, grief, and impermanence; her words are so well put and very informative. What I find fascinating about Catholicism(is this an actual word?) is how rich it is in tradition. It is a faith filled with rituals, systems, celebrations, and structured practices that seem to hold people through every season of life. A few weeks ago, I came across a TikTok video explaining how some Catholic communities have groups of sisters who stay awake at midnight praying specifically for mothers with ...

This January was quite special for me. I had set out to just live life and not to focus too much on goals that always end up not being fulfilled. Maybe the goal is to let things just unfold(I don't know)  My highlight of the month was def reading one book each week and I loved the books that i randomly chose of course with the help of ChatGPT(what could I do without AI?) The books are amazing, I loved the stories and the lessons in it. I love the growth that came with reading them and I just love me for being such a consistent girlie. Is reading a hobby? These are the four books that shaped my January and the lessons they left behind. 1. Tuesdays with Morrie  : Learning How to Sit With Mortality This book felt like being invited into a very gentle classroom. Morrie doesn’t teach through theory or advice. He teaches through presence, through honesty about dying, loving, forgiving, and letting go. What stayed with me most was how calmly he speaks about death, not as somethi...