Support during Loss and when Grieving

source; Haven Hospice

There is nothing that hits harder in life than losing someone you love to death.

I am not sure if death too will die one day or if it will live to exist. All I know is deaths will continue happening daily and we keep hoping that it won't knock on our doors anytime until when we are ready or old enough.

When one is grieving, the most important thing is usually support.

Support, Support, and more support.

Support can come from family, friends, and the community. When someone we dearly loved dies, we always tend to lose interest in everything in life, from eating, cooking, cleaning, and doing anything. Support from family and friends can come in handy when it comes to making sure there's food in the house, taking care of the children, doing general cleaning, and offering emotional and even financial support.

The days before the burial and weeks or months after the death are always a crucial times for the bereaved. These are the times when one needs all the support that is available. Visit that person who has lost their person, sit beside them, let them cry, let them scream, let them jump as long as they do not do things that might hurt them.

Loss and grief come with a mixture of feelings and emotions like anger, guilt, fear, denial, and also depression. Others will want to be left alone which is still okay, assure them that you are there if in case they will need anything. Some might use bad words on you, but it is never about you... it's the anger that comes with grief.

Also, do not use words like, everything will be okay, you will give birth to other children (if it's a child loss), time will heal, everything happens with a reason, and other statements that you are not sure of. Being there is more than enough, hold their hands, hug them, and assure them that you are with them. 

A grieving person especially in the first few days after the loss is never in the right state of mind, they can say things and do things, and talking to them has the potential of hurting them more. Do not in any way try to stop anyone from crying. Let a grieving person process their emotions the way they want as long as they are not hurting themselves.

Support should not end immediately after burial or a few weeks after. Support should be continuous, always check up on them, visit them and do things for them around the house, and schedule fun dates with them. Loss and grief is a pathway to depression which always crips in after the burial is done and people are gone and life seems to continue despite the loss.

Support is key.

If you are currently going through grief and you are not getting the support that you need, try interacting more with family or friends. Social interactions will help you lighten your mood and make you feel happier.

I hope you found this helpful, cheers.