Insight By Jael

source; Haven Hospice There is nothing that hits harder in life than losing someone you love to death. I am not sure if death too will die one day or if it will live to exist. All I know is deaths will continue happening daily and we keep hoping that it won't knock on our doors anytime until when we are ready or old enough. When one is grieving, the most important thing is usually support. Support, Support, and more support. Support can come from family, friends, and the community. When someone we dearly loved dies, we always tend to lose interest in everything in life, from eating, cooking, cleaning, and doing anything. Support from family and friends can come in handy when it comes to making sure there's food in the house, taking care of the children, doing general cleaning, and offering emotional and even financial support. The days before the burial and weeks or months after the death are always a crucial times for the bereaved. These are the times when one needs all the su...

(source: Frontline AIDS)  Throw those stones at me please, I have good health insurance cover that is not even active, thanks. I know I would have chosen a better name for this but I did not, it's just an English name, stop stigmatizing it. Well, one of the greatest things that we are proud of in this generation, especially among Gen Z is the free will to do whatever you want to do. This has got both negative and positive impacts. One of them is personal decisions in regard to sexuality. To be honest, this is not the time when you will tell your kids or others to abstain till marriage. I am still of the opinion that sex should wait until marriage but let's talk about why keep it and how to keep that fruit till marriage. Let me keep the why and how for another day. Let's talk about the act itself, you are already there. First, I am not judging anyone in this as I said, we are in a time where we are free to choose whatever we want to do with our bodies. I however have a few t...

source;Pinterest I have been the chair lady of us children's Rights for the past many years. I have written about things parents should do and not do to their children. I have even had conversations with people about how they should parent, while I was probably still stuck on the being child-free idea (which I still think is a cool idea) I had honest intentions, don't get me wrong. I was probably hurting from my own unresolved issues with my parents, issues that had nothing or little to do with my parents. I am one of those people who would rather have been asked if they wanted to be born or not. When I realized I can't actually go back and ask not to be born, I started blaming my parents for this and that. I concentrated on their shortcomings and forgot to appreciate their good side, in fact, the positives outweigh the negatives but you know us human beings. We always choose to focus on the negative and what people should have done and forget what they have done well. This...

source: LoveThisPic  If you asked me this question one year ago, I definitely would have given you a whole list of why I was not happy. I wasn't happy because I was broke, (it's not like I have the money now) things were not going well in my life and I had some sort of pressure. I was not where I hoped I would be, and everybody around me was seemingly doing okay in their lives. The thing that I realized about life is that you do not have to have the things that you want to be happy. Most of the time we overlook the things that we have and focus on the things that we do not have. You might be living in a good house with a good supply of water and electricity, you can afford healthy food and can put on clothes, but will still stress about how your dressing is not good enough, how you do not afford this or that. Most of the time, our minds work against us. We often think of the things we do not have, the mistakes we did, and everything negative. We will spend many years looking fo...

Please take a seat and a glass of water:) I am one of the people who wish they were born with a clear manual of how to run this life, cos what tf am I supposed to do with myself? I am a self-driven person, I know my goals and I try to work and walk toward them every single day. God entrusted me to my parents but I grew up and later realized I can't entirely depend on them. I am expected every single day to make decisions without asking my parents. From a small decision like what time to sleep to a big one like choosing a career path.  I always view myself as two people in one body. The me that is visible and my beautiful and intelligent inner voice, most probably the one writing this. Allow me to pamper her cos she needs to be affirmed a thousand times in a minute. So, every minute is always a battle between my inner voice and me, is this what the bible says about the flesh and the spirit? (maybe that inner voice is the spirit). A battle of decision-making, one person wants this an...

source: lucy jacovelli  Tell me how I am turning 25 in less than sixty days... I mean, I was so excited to turn eighteen the other day. I was happy because it was my final year in secondary school/senior high. I had big dreams like going to college, graduate, get a good job, move into my own house, maybe get a man, and maybe, just maybe get married and have kids. Do I have any of these close to seven years later? Please let me grab a glass of water cos wueehh. I am not saying eti I do not have any achievements so far, it's just that I am not where I envisioned myself. But I have some big achievements and a lot of small ones. Some of my big achievements thus far have been going back to school to pursue a dream career which is counseling psychology. The other one is the woman that I am... Damn, have you ever met me? Have you ever seen me? Trust me, I am the most amazing and lovely person you will ever meet. I am grateful I get to exist at such a time when everything exists for me to ...

 Let me tell you Jepchumba, I always get home on Thursdays from my place of attachment and feel like wueeh! what did I sign myself up for?  Let me introduce myself, I am Jael and I recently went back to school to study counseling psychology. To be honest, I chose counseling because I thought I was good at relating with people and I wanted to get a chance to get paid for practically helping people as compared to just helping people as a Christian responsibility. I still think I am good at conversing with others and relating with them in real life, but in therapy, I draw that thick line. First of all, I do not in any way regret choosing that career path (just in case my parents get to this blog). Secondly, I enjoy doing it. In my less than 100 hours in this field, there is no day I have come back home and felt like 'what tf did I get myself into?" okay maybe once or twice.  So, my issue is not even my capability or competence to handle the cases that I come across. My issu...